Success in Life: 5 Simple Things you Should Avoid to Earn it

Success in life means unique things to different people. For some, it’s all about achieving your goals.

To others, it’s about inner peace and fulfillment. While many of us want to reach the peak of our careers, health, and business, many are void of the will to succeed. More so, fear of failure sometimes riddles us and we would rather do nothing than try.

However, we shouldn’t walk riddled with that kind of mentality. And here are the things you should avoid to have success in life.

1. Self-doubt

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As one author puts it, no one will ever doubt you more than yourself.

Normally, this appears something that we can easily brush it over our shoulders and put the blame on something else.

But the reality is unless you work on getting past your self-doubt success in life will be an elusive dream.

But the reality is unless you work on getting past your self-doubt success in life will be an elusive dream.

Self-confidence could be the only difference between your failed state and success.

2.  Wasting time

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The rich and the poor have both twenty-four hours a day. How the two groups spent their time makes the difference. Waste time and success in life will be an elusive dream for you.

To avoid wasting time, have a to -do list on your table every day you wake up. Make this easier by buying yourself a personal diary that will help you keep tabs of things you intend to do.

There are many distractions in life that kill our time. Movies, TV, social media are all avenues that steal away our precious time.

However, from today on, you can desire to be a good time manager. You can plan your day well so that you have a constructive activity to do every our of your day.

3. Procrastination

Do it now if you have the chance. Period.

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As pupils back in the day, our parents could admonish us to finish our assignments in time before resting.

This practice was a life of virtue that they were trying to instill in us at a young age.

If we could have procrastinated on them, the consequences would be our teachers punishing us for getting to school late.

As we begin to adult, we always forget what our parents tried to instill in us at a young age.

Even though these habits could still be ingrained somewhere n our subconscious minds, we either ignore them or feel they were meant for kids.

As we begin to adult, we always forget what our parents tried to instill in us at a young age. Even though these habits could still be ingrained somewhere in our subconscious minds, we either ignore them or feel they were meant for kids

It’s today or never. Prioritize and take action.

4. Indiscipline in our Finances

You can watch all the podcasts and attend workshops and seminars about building wealth.

Similarly, you could attend classes on saving money and investing. But all these will be a waste of time if you won’t take action.

Success in life calls for good financial planning. And this means working with a budget.

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I was at this place at one point in life. I wasn’t in charge of my finances and off I went from one debt to another with no savings and any investment plan.

Realizing my lack of discipline and penchant to overspend is now saving me a lot of bucks and my bank account is growing fatter by the day.

How did I curb my lack of financial discipline? I made use of my bank’s standing order to make me never see the money I save.

Also, any delay in depositing money into my bank account for the standing order the bank was to apply meant they would sir-charge me..

You don’t go shopping without a shopping list. You will buy everything at the shop your money can afford – Impulse buying.

Have multiple streams of income to have a constant cash flow. I still balance two jobs despite the pressure to deliver on both. Success in life calls for making tough decisions.

5. Giving Up

Giving up is always the simple thing to do when all else has failed to work. I have been a victim of this in life.

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The environment at the bottom is discouraging and snaps out of you the boundless energy you had.

It’s even worse when you surround yourself with pessimists who tell you nothing is ever going to work.

If you feeling overwhelmed with a task at a hand or a project, take a break but by all means but never give up.


Success in life means many things to many people. That means only you can define the breadth of your success and how you want it to be.

To add to this, not all people can have the same route to success. In fact, some will arrive earlier at it than others.

There is no sense in getting envious or jittery about your friend’s success. They are in their own route with different circumstances compared to yours.

Success in life calls for investing in yourself and focus on becoming a better you.

Are there any of the mentioned points that you still struggle with? Let me know in the comments section below.

Don’t Seek Success, Seek Value


Seeking success is good, but not better when compared to seeking value. What success are you seeking in your life? Is it the perfect marriage? Do you want to get a promotion at your workplace? In fact, you have been told the sky is the limit. Right? I’m not disputing the saying, but here is a thought: don’t seek success, seek value.

In life, we pay for value. Nothing more, nothing less. Whether it is a product or service, you use it not because of anything but the value you get from it.

So, lets take a deeper dive and find out why we should seek for value and not success.

4 Reasons You Should Seek Value and Not Success

1. You Change Lives by the New You

Think about it for a second. What? Life before Facebook. Social media was unheard of. You wouldn’t imagine in your wildest dreams sharing your photo over the world save for pen pals.

There is nothing so satisfying like being an agent of change or transformation in the lives of other people. You don’t have to invent Facebook like Mark. Light kind-hearted activities like feeding the hungry, giving an attentive ear make a lot of difference in peoples’ lives.

Similarly, in your workplace rather than chasing the success of getting a promotion, how about you focus on seeking and adding value to your team? Ask yourself what you could do better to improve your team’s performance.

By serving others, you tie yourself less to your goals and aspirations. You pay more on the value you are bringing to society. This builds you in the long run.

Your way to greatness is by serving others and adding value to their lives. However, amid all these, also pay attention to how you are growing in your life.

2. It’s Value that Brings you Success and not Vice versa

We always see success all around us and you can’t deny it. Whether it’s someone driving your dream car or having a fat paycheck.

Someone is running a successful business that is flourishing. You wish you could pull off something like that too. And so, clearly, our definition of success comes from what we admire or what someone is doing successfully in our space.

However, in most cases, this serves to hurt you because you are trying to project a journey or a milestone that isn’t yours. Put another way, you are trying to be the person who created that success. You and I know it’s a wild goose chase you are up to.

Comparison is the thief of joy. And so when you compare yourself with others, it leaves you empty and disappointed.

On the flip side, don’t seek success, seek value, and provide it to others. The truly successful people are those who contribute value to others. They don’t accumulate glory for others but want to see others succeed as well.

If you have a brand that is giving back to the community, people are more likely to value you and appreciate your efforts. Moreso, they will trust your brand. They will support you and join you in your value addition efforts.

That’s exactly how you build your success. You don’t seek success; you seek value and add it to the lives of other people.

When you seek value, you will begin giving that value to others. In the process, you will change, growing and building your brand. And that will be your success.

I work for a nonprofit in Kenya by the name One Acre Fund. It began as a small social enterprise serving 38 farmers in Kenya. Today, it has spread its program across 6 countries. The Kenya program alone serves 440,000 farmers.

3. You Build an Abundant Mindset

In most cases, we always focus on ourselves. We focus on how we can take care of our daily minor problems but forget to examine our mindset.

Even so, it’s easier for you to build an abundant mindset by focusing on others. Because by helping others, your mind will begin noticing that there is the value you can offer people.

You, therefore,, start appreciating yourself for what you can do. The joy you give to others will refresh you every day and put in you in abundant disposition.

4. Value Lasts Success is Temporal

Let’s say you are successful, right? You have no problem paying the bills; you got the money. Going for vacations is not an issue of at what cost it’s about when.

But if you were to die today, all the mega lifestyle disappears. Conversely, you could run a non-profit that feeds the hunger-stricken. The contrast is clear right away.

Success dies on the day you die

The former is having the best time of his life, while the latter is changing lives.

What always lingers for long after we die is the value we offered and not the sleek machines we drove.

Therefore, get out there. Do an act of kindness, or support a social course. People rarely forget your acts of kindness. Don’t seek success, seek value.

Icons of Value in the World

The world’s greatest are not remembered because of their successes, but because of their value. Check this quick rundown of people valuable in the world.

Bill Gates -Founded Microsoft

Mark Zuckerberg – Facebook

Andrew Youn – One Acre Fund

Lewis Brown – Motivational speaker

These people are not just successful out of the blue, but they sought after a value of over the years; which made them the successful figures they are today.

Bill Gates’ obsession with computers did not begin today.

If you have been seeking success all this long! Stop in your tracks right now and change what you seek after for value. Success is short-lived, but the value will never be archaic.

You want to be that person people won’t fail to mention at an important meeting or event because of your value. With value, you can’t afford to be ignored?

Bottom Line

Seek to be a person of value and not a person of success. This begins at finding a skill or carving out a niche you can be good at. A jack of all trades was never a master at anything. Besides, your simple acts of kindness can also make you a person of value.

Top 15 Inspiring Denzel Washington Quotes You Should Know

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Ever heard or read Denzel Washington quotes? Well, before we get to the quotes, you must have come across the name. Denzel is a popular American actor, producer and director.

Denzel Washington is 65 years of age, having been born as Denzel Hayes Washington Junior on December 28th, 1954 in Mount Vernon, New York. Despite a humble beginning, the son of a Pentecostal preacher has won two golden global awards.

Also, Denzel is well-known for acting real-life historical figures. Some movies he has featured in include Cry Freedom in 1987, featuring as Steve Biko. Besides, he has featured as Malcolm X in the movie Malcolm X in 1992.

If you enjoy watching his movies, you may have watched the Equalizer 1 and 2.

Watching The Equalizer 2 the other day by Denzel Washington, I couldn’t help but marvel at the entertaining nature of  Denzel. He is good at shifting between tense and calm situations with ease.

In this thriller, Denzel played his role pretty well. While the director may have tried to capture the spirit of the first Equalizer, it turned out slow and predictable. 

That being said, Denzel has never disappointed in his films. He is a comedian, fighter, orator, mentor and a talented storyteller all rolled into one. This, he captures in his movies perfectly fine.

Moreso, Denzel is a motivational speaker. He inspires many, including both friends and foe. Here are some of his quotes, you want to know about.

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  1. “I say luck is when an opportunity comes along and you’re prepared for it.”
  2.  “Do what you have to do, to do what you want to do.”
  3. I think a role model is a mentor–someone you see on a daily basis, and you learn from them.
  4. “Faith will get you to a point. Luck will get you to a point. But to achieve the kind of success you dream about, you need to WORK. There are no shortcuts, you can’t cheat life, just get to work and don’t stop until you reach your highest potential.”
  5.  “If I am a cup maker, I’m interested in making the best cup I possibly can. My effort goes into that cup, not what people think about it.”
  6.  “You pray for rain, you gotta deal with the mud too. That’s a part of it.”
  7. “If you have an enemy, then learn and know your enemy, don’t just be mad at him or her.”
  8. “At the end of the day, it’s not about what you have or even what you’ve accomplished. It’s about what you’ve done with those accomplishments. It’s about who you’ve lifted up, who you’ve made better. It’s about what you’ve given back.”
  9. “Success? I don’t know what that word means. I’m happy. But success, that goes back to what in somebody’s eyes success means. For me, success is inner peace. That’s a good day for me.”
  10. “Dreams without goals remain dreams.”
  11. “Never help an ungrateful person get on their feet.”
  12. “My mother never gave up on me. I messed up in school so much they were sending me home, but my mother sent me right back.”
  13. “Do what you have to do, to do what you want to do”
  14. “I’d be more frightened by not using whatever abilities I’d been given. I’d be more frightened by procrastination and laziness.”
  15. “Put God first in everything you do. Everything that I have is by the grace of God, I understand that. It’s a gift. I didn’t always stick with Him, but He stuck with me.”
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