13 Unconventional Wisdom Nuggets you Should Know in 2021

unconventional wisdom nuggets

I have a list of unconventional wisdom nuggets to share with you before we wrap up 2020.

I’m not mean. Whatever I learn, you learn and we move forward together, don’t we?

We are just counting a few hours into the new year. I thought it wise to write this post before we cross over. Isn’t that the next big thing? ama ni pekee yangu nangoja kuvuka mwaka?

People always have their own reasons that makes them loathe the month January. From where I live, it’s the month that the sun is always hotter than ever with a dusty wind blowing you right, left and center.

It makes your lips appear dry and cracked. Ooh January!

Never mind that you made your deep pockets shallow during the festive season. All on what? Eating and making merry? By the way, Christmas is the only time people meet with their larger families, so its worth spending an extra coin, right?

13 Unconventional Wisdom Nuggets

I have lived long enough to know when someone is making me to look stupid or would want to take advantage of me.

Some bad events in my life have occurred not once but twice because of my sheer lack of keenness about lessons I should be learning in life.

And so while traveling from one town to the next, I put together this list I call unconventional wisdom nuggets to break down life for what it really is.

Be wise about life and thank me later. On the flip side, play with fire and get burned.

Unconventional Wisdom 1: Don’t do Business with Relatives

I have been a keen reader of life enough to know that business with relatives is never the best of arrows to use in your quiver.

If things go south in the business, you will have yourself to blame. You will be the loser and there is little you can do to seek redress.

Where in the world will you take your uncle or cousin? to the police? C’mon you know where this ends.

I didn’t say they shouldn’t be your customers. They can buy from you as much as they want but don’t make them your business partners.

The case of Tuskys Supermarket downfall in Kenya arose due to siblings rivalry and greed. It was a family business. Though not directly related to what I’m trying to say, to some extent it rings a bell.

Relatives will take advantage of your blood relationship to manipulate you, steal from you, or simply tarnish your reputation.

Relatives should remain relatives unless it’s an immediate family owned business with well learned people.

Unconventional Wisdom 2: Lend Money you are willing to Lose

The person who comes to you to borrow money is never the same when you call them to ask for your money back.

Most people when borrowing money are always humble, respectful and honest looking till they get hold of your cash.

While this is not always the case with all the people who borrow money from you, a lot that happens is bad news.

All hell breaks lose when they don’t honor their promise and you have to keep calling them to ask for your money back.

Some will be outright rude, or feign sickness that they have never suffered from before.

To keep your piece, lend money you are willing to lose or choose to be called stingy. Haha. Apply some unconventional wisdom in your money dealings.

3. You Can Give Money to Strangers but Lend

People can be sly. And mark me right, I’m not being pessimistic or negative. I have a first hand experience of some of things I’m writing about.

I met a lady online doing Network marketing. She befriended me asking me to join her network marketing team but I politely declined.

However, she was very persuasive and kept posting images of Mpesa transactions showing her team members making a kill.

Still, she didn’t woo me in. All I asked her was to train and mentor me to be a good network marketer so I could get the skills and use them to my own gain.

She agreed to my request and said there was nothing for free and so I will have to pay her $15/kes1500 for the training.

We agreed that I shall be paying the amounts in bits. We had known each other for less than 3 months when one Friday, she asked me for kes300 to be returned on Monday.

I send her the money because it’s the money I could easily spend on lunch. That was the last time I heard from her.

Any person you have known for less than a year is a stranger. Don’t commit to them any valuable resources you have. The trick with them is always to stay closer to you as possible, know your vulnerabilities/weaknesses and pap!

They strike when the iron is hot.

4. People Watch your Actions not your Words. Tenda Mema

A lot many times we are always easy with words. And beware of people who talk to much. Even the Bible warns against to many words for in them sin is not absent.

Too much talk leads to sin. Be sensible and keep your mouth shut

Proverbs 10:19 (NLV)

Almost always, people have a leeway with words. You get caught in a compromising situation all you have to do is to use your mouth to absolve yourself from blame. Aren’t lawyers making money with law interpretation and words?

However, we easily forget that people will hear your words but also watch what you do after. Be the person who keeps promises no matter how small.

You want to be the person whose yes will be a yes and no a no. The common Swahili saying goes “Tenda mema nenda zako”

Kenyan politicians have a way with words but a large zero on their report cards. A typical Kenyan politician could easily sing his way to parliament, get their and pass no tangible laws or mismanage CDF funds.

He later comes back to his constituents in the next election with a bag of empty promises and sings his way back to parliament again.

Unconventional wisdom dictates that you be a man of your words by honoring them through right actions.

5. Bosses are the Most Unliked People Hahah

Sorry for being brutal with the truth here, but people seldom love their bosses. Most people sulk, whine, and loathe their bosses/managers for myriad reasons.

Sometimes the juniors complaining are right but some other times they are wrong as well. Your boss could be the insecure type who isn’t happy to see you outshining them. This is because to them that means you are about to take their position.

According to the 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene, it’s never a wise move to outshine your leader or boss.

However, sometimes people outshine their bosses even when they are not trying to. And that alone is enough reason for tension and friction in the work place.

On the same knot, some bosses have character issues or are either poor at communication and this really creates a lot of friction with their juniors.

Nevertheless, not all bosses can be branded as bad. Some are really good mentors and can groom you to heights unimaginable.

If you can’t tolerate your boss, find another one or start working for yourself and quit your current job. It’s easier said than done, right?

Unconventional wisdom denotes that working for yourself is the surest way to grow rich.

Where there is a will there is a way

6. Motivational Gospel vs. Doctrinal Gospel. Be Grounded on Absolute Truth

Well, I began by saying I have some unconventional wisdom to share with you as we wrap up 2020. Some of my wordings are going to be a little bit radical.

You are free to share your reservations in the comments section below.

I’m a believer and ascribe to the fundamentals of the Christian faith that Jesus was born of a virgin Mary, died, resurrected, ascended high above the heavens and he is seated at the right hand of the father.

He is our great advocate and intercessor before the father.

As believers, we are in him justified he is us glorified.

However, I have been in the church long enough to hear lots of sermons from different preachers and pastors of the word. I can only come to one conclusion: Much of what is touted as the gospel isn’t doctrinal but more of motivational/prosperity speeches with little grounding on doctrine.

The sad part is that people or rather churchgoers have been so accustomed to the prosperity gospel that when you introduce the gospel about who you can be in Jesus and how you can build a strong relationship with him, you look like the liar.

You become boring to their itching ears.

It’s true that believers are inheritors/partakers of the Abrahamic blessings. You will also agree with me that believers have been asked to seek God’s kingdom and his righteousness and all things shall be added unto them. But our focus shouldn’t be on the blessings, it should be on God and his kingdom and other things will be added.

Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.

Matthew 6:33 (NLV)

Let me Preach 🙂

Unfortunately, believers today practice the above verse vice versa. They seek things first then God later. By seeking things first, they pray less, attend fellowships less, study God’s word less, and everything less.

And this situation most likely stems from insufficient to zero grounding on doctrine because of wrong teachings of the word or none at all.

For example, do believers give because they are blessed or they will be blessed? Everything Jesus has done for the believer is in the past tense. Any gospel talking about Jesus will do is another gospel.

For the non-believers, Jesus will do, because they are not yet in him but for the believers he has done it all. But wait, Jesus did it and finished it all even for the non-believers.

He will not come from heaven again and be crucified to save those who don’t believe. All they have to do is believe in the finished work of the cross, repent and seek to grow spiritually.

I will not teach but I would encourage you to start listening to preachers of grace such as Joseph Prince, Abel Damina, and Andrew Wommack.

7. Build True and Genuine Friendships with People

I know of people in my phonebook who will only call because they are in distress or need a favor.

Once they get what they want they vanish only to remember you when they are in trouble again.

Those are not friends. I refer to them as parasites because they only show up to ravage on your resources. They are like the devil who only shows up to rob, kill and destroy.

To amount to something in this world, you need people. You can’t keep behaving in a way that makes them second guess you and expect their support.

If employed, never make a mistake of believing all your office colleagues are your friends. When you lose your job, a few will keep in touch or even remember to say Hi.

That’s when you will know who your true friends are. Sorry but true friendship is about give and take. You have to sacrifice you time, money, skills and energy to keep your friendship blossoming.

8. Guardian Angels in Life are Real. There is One for You

Sijasema uexpect malaika atoke heaven anafly, Lol! Unconventional wisdom denotes that their people in your life who will always vouch for you even when you suck sometimes.

I’m a freelance writer on the sidelines. While looking for work online, I happened to bump into my guardian angel.

We met in one of the Facebook freelancers group. We were all looking for freelance writing work. He happened to get one sooner and even asked me to lend him a hand.

He loved my work from the word go. Since then, he has always been referring me to potential clients over and over. Even when I seem to do a poor job sometimes, he still believes in my skills and ability to deliver.

We always share our joys and successes and keep encouraging each other in the freelance journey.

I believe everyone has this kind of person in life. Someone who is always rooting and vouching for you.

Methinks this kind of situation arises when you have proven your worth and are reliable in your craft or skill.

9. How Good are your Negotiation Skills? Believe me When I say you Can Negotiate through anything in Life

I recently got married. I’m from the Abaluhya tribe in Western Kenya. According to our customs, a young man intending to get married has to pay a bride price of 13 heads of cattle. And 2 goats to accompany the cattle.

Add to this pesa ya baba na mama na pia kashopo. Hehehe. I’m not done. There is always another interesting list of demands like gumboots, shoes, walking stick, hat, kabuti kwa English ni? and bla bla.

So before a young man cements the marriage relationship with her wife to be, it’s a must he pays dowry unless aibe tu. 🙂 What precedes dowry payment is dowry negotiation.

In my case, I had very good negotiators who gave me a breather during the dowry period. Phew!

The message I’m trying to drive home is that you can negotiate through anything in life. Be it a job interview, a business deal, a contract and you name it.

You may not be the best candidate for the job but the panel may ask you “Why do you think we should give you this job?”

Negotiate! I repeat negotiate.

My Upwork Story

I’m a freelancer on Upwork and at one point my account got suspended indefinitely. UUUUiii. My account was dormant for so long because I kept bidding for jobs in vain.

I had also followed some bad advice from an acquaintance that got me suspended from the platform.

I was suspended from working on the freelancing platform. It was on 24th of April 2018. One of the darkest days of my life.

Notification of my suspension from Upwork

Well, I was so disappointed to say the least. I started telling myself I’m not cut out for writing. I took a break and forgot about writing on Upwork for a while.

But something changed in me after getting inspired by Walter Akolo’s weekly emails in my mail box.

I chose to appeal their decision and Alas! These guys accepted me back. Couldn’t believe it. I was shocked I could be this good in making a case. See the screenshot below.

My appeal case to the Upwork marketplace

Check the date. hahah I had given up on Upwork for almost two years. Oooh man. Giving up is easier done than said.

See their response below

My Upwork Account reactivation

One of the happiest day in my life this year was on the 31st of January this year. My Upwork account was reinstated.

Currently, I have an ongoing contract on the platform.

My current contract on Upwork

You can negotiate through anything in life. You can go to the American embassy in your country and negotiate on why they need you in there country. ooh yes!

10. Siblings should Learn Teamwork Early before Adulthood

My dose of unconventional wisdom is still here.

Siblings! please! Learn team work when you are still young and leaving in your parents house. It becomes difficult to do anything meaningful as a team when you haven’t built this culture during childhood.

With age comes more responsibilities. Once you get a job or start a solid business, as a young adult, you are expected to move out of your parent’s home and start paying house rent and other bills.

Sooner you get married and you gonna start changing diapers. With your own family responsibilities, it’s increasingly hard to merge your resources with your siblings to run a project at your home place.

In most cases this happens, if you had never built the culture of doing things together as siblings.

As adults, one sibling is always trying to win the support of the rest in vain. It’s only through calamities or catastrophic events that you find such siblings pooling their resources together.

It isn’t the perfect scenario if you ask me. Build team work early in your family.

11. Borrow Money and Invest

The statement – Poor people save, rich people invest sounds like an insult to the efforts of the poor to becoming rich. But it’s another brutal truth you can’t ignore.

The poor and middle class save most of their hard earned cash in banks, SACCOs and microfinance institutions. The rich and wealthy or rather those with a wealth mentality go borrow this money and invest.

Ten years down the line, the investors are richer, the savers are not even an eighth of their financial goals.

I would say this, don’t just save because of the 50/30/20% rule. Save with a goal for a certain period of time and go invest that money.

It’s better you buy a flock of sheep that give birth every 9 months than put your money in a bank that gives you less than 9% interest per annum on your annual savings.

Bonds and shares are other better investment opportunities you could explore.

Also, think of ways you can multiply your income streams to manage your current lifestyle. With more income streams, you will have more to save and invest.

Don’t be afraid of borrowing huge loans via your payslip to invest. That’s what the rich are doing and moving forward.

Economics teaches to you to manage scarcity or what is there. So, for how long are you going to manage your salary? Unconventional Wisdom can teach you better.

Kes10,000/= in 1999 could buy a lot more than the same amount of money in 2020. I bet you are wise enough to see that. So why not invest?

12. Learn Early What Works for You so You Can Save Much Time and Energy

In life, their is always a stage of exploration and discovery before one settles down with a cut out path in life.

This reminds me of the common saying that life begins at 40. But sometimes we tend to waste much time with things that aren’t cut out for us.

The world, I believer would be a better place, if people knew well enough their purpose and calling. But what is the situation now? We are being defined by our education system and not who we are deep on the inside.

Someone went to school and studied Computer Science but their passion is not even in Computers but Agriculture. But society will want to pin you down by your degree and not your personal interests and passions.

In the journey of life their things you try overtime and they come to work out really well. On the contrary, some flop terribly.

Watch yourself, and know your strengths, skills, abilities and most importantly your passion so that you can leverage them into your destiny.

13. We have Many Success Stories but Few Tangible Mentors

In the West, when a simple, down to earth individual becomes a billionaire, you hear later they published a book or a memoir about their journey.

Of course not all millionaires or billionaires in the West do become authors. In my country, success stories are all over, but you can count real tangible mentors who can walk with you through the murky waters of success in life.

That tells you something, the individuals behind the success stories are shady. I don’t mean to say all successful people should publish books. I don’t hate the rich and not all wealthy people are shady but you need to look at the top billionaires in Africa and make your case.

But the least they can do is to mentor young people to be the giants they can be. My hat off for the Zimbabwean tech and media billionaire Strive Masiyiwa.

Strive has been using the Facebook platform to mentor young people into entrepreneurship and self-employment.

A challenge for you: Become your own success story and mentor someone else into your path.

Conclusion

This is the longest post I have ever written on this blog. Hope you found it intriguing and interesting. There is more I could write but I feel 3000 words about unconventional wisdom are enough for today. I leave to read and be the judge. If you want to join this discussion, feel free to leave a comment below. Wishing you a prosperous 2021.

Good Things Come to those who Wait

Good things come to those who wait

Really? Do good things come to those who wait, or is it just one of the many statements with white lies we know of?

The other question is wait for what things from where? BBI team? Jubilee or Uncle Sam?

The Waiting Wilderness

The world today makes you want good things thick and fast. So how in the world are you going to wait for good things to come your way?

Someone the other day was wondering why I haven’t bought a car yet. Hehe. We panga maisha yako achana na yangu boss!

In fact, I’m tempted to believe that the social norm today is not about being rich, it’s about looking rich. It’s about the perception you are rich.

So, all a young man needs to do is buy a fancy car? Some fancy clothing and build some mansion in the village or in a suburban plot of land somewhere and bam! You are damn rich men! Even with no money in your bank account or valuable assets.

Yet society will perceive someone walking in faded blue denim jeans and a Jubilee Tuko Pamoja T-shirt as poor. Hahahhha

The irony is this guy could be yule msee when you are cash-strapped and all your friends and enemies have turned their backs on you. Ye ana mali but hucheza chini, you get?

Yeah, the aforementioned scenario is an accurate reflection of the happenings in society today. Instant gratification, over expectations, flamboyancy dot the material world of vanity.

You are entitled to your opinion but the wisest man to have lived saw all these and he wrote in his book of Proverbs 13:7 (NIV):

One person pretends to be rich, yet has nothing; another pretends to be poor, yet has great wealth.

A young man coming out of University wants to be paid Kes 60,000/ USD600 on their first job. Bro! I like your ambition, but people begin from the bottom and rise the ladder.

Sit and Wait or Act and Wait?

The statement “good things come to those who wait” shouldn’t be understood to sit, do nothing, and wish for some miracle to happen.

In the process of waiting you invest in yourself and build good habits that will make you a better version of yourself.

What are your dreams? or what is your purpose? Who do you want to become?

If you are serious about your dreams and what the future holds for you? then you should learn to wait. Fast or quick isn’t always right. Well, it could also be right but not the best for you.

Waiting doesn’t mean drowning in alcohol and indulging in sensational sex to feel you belong.

It’s all about taking responsibility for your life and make every decision you make count.

How to Wait

1. Get Busy and Productive

I will use a common saying here again – An idle mind is the devil’s workshop.

You have 24 hours in a day. You can choose to get engaged and productive or idle and destructive.

I have seen young people getting busy and keeping off activities that would destroy them. Similarly, I see young people who keep destroying themselves.

Jack, a young man I know is a great footballer. Daily except for Sunday, he is always on the football pitch training for the next tournament. Rarely do you find him sleeping in bed idle.

In three words, he is fit, disciplined and focused.

He knows he can be a great footballer and that’s why he invests time in fine-tuning his gaming skills.

Mary and Ian

Mary is in the Praise and Worship team in their church. Often, when you go looking for her or ring her, she will tell you she is church singing or praying.

How about Ian? He is always in his father’s business stall, helping him run the family business. He has little time for reckless and irresponsible living.

Ian is learning to be a business man, doesn’t he?

A Stark Contrast

On the other hand, Allan, is the exact opposite of the two above. He eats large chunks of food but he is very idle. And have you noticed how idle people get hungry very fast? Hahah

Allan can spend the whole day binge watching movies on a laptop or the TV set and chatting with ladies on the phone.

Mark you, we live in a time and age where you can read Personal Development books on your Smartphone or study a free course online.

Farming today is no longer a reserve of the old in society. Young people can embrace it and Allan is no exception.

Because of his untapped strength and idleness, Allan occasionally fornicates with young girls in the neighborhood. Ignoring the fact that he could contract STDs, get impotent or killed with Viagra or sire a baby he isn’t ready to take care of.

He also secretly goes for house parties, smokes weed and drinks lots of alcohol. Ooh poor boy! Bad habits die really hard.

And I don’t hate men, ladies have their fare share too. Laura has been caught severally by her parents sneaking. She does this in the wee hours of the night.

And for what reason? To drink and sleep with her boyfriend, old enough to be her father. Pathetic!

2. Keep Good Company

Guys! The truth is simple and plain or plain and simple? Ni kizungu ilikuja na meli but you get my point, don’t you?

Have you noted that if someone is trying to explain something simple to you in so many words either he is lying or not sure of what he is saying?

I come tell you, “Bad company corrupt good morals” I mean what’s so hard to understand about that? Or should I speak in French? Okay I will but sio sa huu.

In the waiting period learn to keep good company. Learn to walk with people you admire and aspire to be.

Even amongst your peers, some are better than you in life skills. You can learn something from them, right?

Good things come to those who wait by keeping good company.

3. Pray Without Ceasing

Prayer is a form of communication.

But in this case, you are not communicating to your friend but a higher power or deity – God

I know young people who pray. But a majority don’t. How I wish they could learn the secrets of prayer early in life and build this habit all the way.

Prayer invokes the power of God over natural situations in your life. It generates tremendous power to cause seismic shifts in your destiny and mold you to the person your maker wants you to become.

Prayer aligns you with the vision and purpose of God over your life.

In your waiting time, don’t sit idle. Join prayer caravans and seek God with all your heart. Walk with the prayer warriors and see your life get transformed.

And for the record, you don’t have to be in church to pray. Are you traveling? pray. Seated somewhere? Pray. Walking in a park? pray. If you can communicate when driving it means you can pray when driving.

Wrap Up

I feel I haven’t written enough of this post. But hope you understand it the way I’m trying to. Good things come to those who wait and you better learn to wait. Life is a journey and you need to enjoy your time in the waiting wilderness. Because you are going to remember those days when you get over with them.

Do you keep your words on Matters Time, Money?

keep your words

What does it mean to keep your words? I understand it to mean doing what you promised.

If you were to hold yourself accountable for keeping your words, what score would you give yourself on a scale of 1-10?

People can fail to keep their words on almost everything, but I find the aspect of failing to keep their words on matters of time and money more outstanding.

I’m still trying to figure out whether this is a Kenyan pandemic or global.

Did you fail on your Promise, or Someone Failed You?

For instance, people sound almost always sound very genuine when asking for help with anything, be it money, or a material need.

Trouble begins when they fail to keep their words, and you have to follow them constantly to remind them about doing what they promised.

And for the record, no one is an angel on keeping their words. You and I both know that once in a while we have been caught between a rock and a hard place in honoring our words, right?

But there is always a way around this: Communication. Rather than waiting for a follow-up call or visit from the person you owe the words, it’s better to explain yourself to the receiving party and assure them you are still on course in doing what you promised.

Wisdom dictates that you don’t make promises you can’t keep.

Relatable Cases

I once traveled with someone I will call a colleague because we once worked together in the same company.

A colleague can double up as a friend, but in this case, he was jus a colleague to me.

Mark as I would call him is always this silent and humble-looking guy who appears harmless even to hurt a fly. Unfortunately, beneath the humbleness was a mix of slyness and trickery.

The guy asked me for a “ruabe” – 200 bobs, claiming that he doesn’t have enough fare for his destination. He promised to refund the money in a week’s time.

Oh boy, I’m still wondering to date whether the one-week period came and went or it’s still coming.

My gut feeling strongly advised me against the move. Poor me wasn’t quick to smell dishonesty in the young man.

After constant reminders and calls that went unanswered, I had to let the money go. A perfect case of someone failing to keep their words.

Do you keep your words on matters time and money?

A Rogue Business Partner

Young people should learn early the importance of keeping their words when seeking help or favor from their peers or authority figures in their lives.

It’s hard coming across people who will go out of their way to support you financially or mentor you in a particular way.

Why in the world would you want to burn such a bridge?

So this young man comes to me to help him with a loan for a business he wants to start. He turns out to be my kin as well. Actually, what he wanted was just a small token to offset his business idea.

It was a genuine request for help, which I didn’t hesitate to honour.

Realizing how kind I was, he approached me once again for a partnership. I was doing a lady merchandise business online, and he had a shop that was running empty.

He requested that we work as a team, whereby I could offer him my products for display in his shop.

For a start, while testing the waters, I offered him three handbags at a cost of 6k – elfu sita ya Kenya kwa hii Corona my friend 🙂 🙂 🙂

To cut to the long chase, my kin sold all the three handbags without cashing me out.

It’s important to note here that it’s prudent to avoid any serious financial and worthwhile commitments with people you haven’t known for over six months.

This period gives you enough time to judge their character and know them for who they truly are. This is an exception if you own a mobile lending company or give loans as your product.

But even mobile lending apps, check your credit score before giving you anything worthwhile.

Matters Time

Do you keep your words on time and meeting appointments?

You know yourself best. A young African lady studying abroad, Germany to be exact, found herself in hot soup after she arrived late for an appointment with her lecturer.

The old man had turned red hot and was beyond the boiling point. “How dare you come late?” he must have barked.

It’s like people only keep time during important job interviews. Other appointments like dates, church, and Chama meetings leave the early birds grumbling and regretting coming early.

Young people should know that keeping their words goes a long way in building their careers and professionalism in life.

Don’t fall into the culture of not keeping your words on important appointments in your life.

You will keep your words next time, won’t you?