Can you even stay positive?
You aren’t even living your dreams yet. How can you?
We face a pandemic right now that has kept us locked in our homes.
Can we still embrace positivity?
You all know the saying that when life hands you a lemon, turn it into a lemonade.
Well, it is easier said than done. How about the negative situations, behaviors, thoughts and experiences you face in your daily life? Do you turn them into positives or you immerse yourself in a sea of negativity?
It is very easy and almost natural to be positive when everything in your life is good.
So, how does a good life look like?
You’re meeting your goals, your wallet is growing fatter every new day, you are full of health and surrounded by caring loved ones. Right?
Conversely, being positive in the face of negativity is one hell of a mountain to climb. How are you expected to be positive when you have a sick spouse in the hospital?
Still, how are you expected to be positive when you are broke, hungry and cannot even afford three square meals in a day?
It becomes even more difficult to tell a graduate to be positive about life when they have gone round in search of a job for months without success.
There you are! Trying hard to make your business work but ends somehow just can’t meet. From the lazy and sly staff to poor sales and low profits, negativity snaps the joy of life away from you.
So how are we expected to be positive when we are being hit left and right with negativity?
From the negative clergyman to the negative conductor on the road, we also meet people who are outrightly negative and only make us negative. Not at all.
Actually, no one expects you to be positive or negative. It is none of their damn business, it yours.
The world is full of negativity in equal measure as positivity and it’s upon us to make the choice on whether to dwell on the positive or negative. Let me not blame the world, you need to look at your own life and you will be surprised to notice the negatives on you. Have you noticed how you belch loudly? What about the large tummy that you don’t enjoy looking at? Okay, you know you are quiet and reserved and you hate yourself for it.
When we constantly focus on our negatives, we register negative mental states in our subconscious minds.
Anytime you get confronted with a strange situation or circumstance, you condition your mind to point out the negatives before the positives.
Have you ever realized how negative people complain about everything? If not, the weather today is bad it will be the waiter was disrespectful. If not, am bored today it will be the food today is tasteless.
Being mentally positive can be actually hard if you are accustomed to looking at a glass as half empty.
However, with much practice, perseverance and patience, you could just be on your way to be the most positive person you have ever met.
For example, let us say you are used to viewing news as always bad news.
So every news hour you switch off the TV because you have the skewed notion that news is always bad.
Well, maybe you will need to test your perception and understanding of what makes up bad news? Besides, you could start watching sermons and your favorite music if at all you find them positive.
What about your negative views towards the current regime? Could you just change your negative mentality a little and start being a fair judge here? It is actually so negative to only point at the ills of an individual institution or government without recognizing their achievements.
For you to cultivate that positive mentality it is important to make the step of recognizing the good in every opportunity, person or situation you deem bad.
So how should we handle negativity?
Just like learning any other virtue, being positive is also a character that you can learn.
Therefore, the only way out of negativity is to stay positive at all times. One reason is that you will never ever chase all the negative people from your life and neither will you avoid them in totality.
Somehow the people close to you could be negative. Rather than try to avoid them appreciate the good in them.
Here are five tips I use to fight negativity
- I Accept Who I am
A long time ago as a teenager I would feel terrible about my muscle size and how short they compared me to my peers. However, I grew into a youth and realized I could just be as sizeable as any other person. This all began when I started accepting myself the way I am.
So do you feel a flaw in you could make you uncomfortable? To be sincere with you, every single one of us has a flaw. What makes the difference is the fact that some have accepted who they are with their flaws and have moved on to other pertinent issues in life.
A person who focuses on his/her flaws only magnifies and makes them even more pronounced in their mind.
Focusing on your flaws only serves to kill yourself-esteem, kill your self-confidence and make you less productive in life. Putting you in not a very good disposition to attract success in your life.
To be positive in life, stop focusing on your flaws and focus on your strengths. Everyone has strengths. This explains why interviewers usually ask a prospective employee about their strengths because they know they have some.
- I Share My Positivity with Others
Basing on the Law of Cause and Effect, I highly encourage sharing out your positivity with others.
This law also referred to as Karma states that whatever you send into the universe comes back. If you send out negativity, you get back negativity. Conversely, if you send out positivity, is what you will get.
I am made to understand that such laws never err. It just the same concept when the Bible talks about reaping what you sow.
If you sleep more today, you will sleep hungry tomorrow. No shortcuts! No magic! The same concept is clearly showed by an echo sound. It only echoes what you say and nothing else.
And so how do I share out my positivity with others? I compliment them when they look good. I chat continuously in a Whatsapp group that is always dormant and silent.
I notice the good things around me and admire them for what they are; the sparkling VX V8 speeding past me, the artistically designed bungalow across the street, the smartly dressed young man nearby. The list is endless.
Apart from just complimenting, I also share my positivity with others by encouraging those who feel life is over for them or life is unfair, rather. This I do via this blog and the many individuals I interact with.
You need to realize that by you encouraging others you make them have a positive outlook on life and subsequently you never remain the same but also change to be like them.
- I start My Day in Positive Like Let’s Say Listening to My Favorite Music
Sometimes I may wake up confused and full of fearful thoughts. However, all that changes in an instant when I play my favorite music.
How you start your day counts a lot in how you will handle the negatives that will get to you during the day.
Imagine yourself quarreling with your wife as the first thing when you wake up. The rest of the day won’t just flow.
Your productive energy is already sapped through the quarrel and you will view every other encounter on negative glasses.
Your subordinates at your place of work could have it rough that day.
One other way I start my day positive is to start with a morning devotion where I study the word of God and pray. Here are some simple truths about a morning devotion using God’s word:
- It builds your faith as a Christian
- It heals your physical and emotional pain
- It fights the enemies in your life, including works of the devil
- It builds your character
- It brings hope
There is no doubt about the positive power of good music and a morning devotion to your life.
- I Try as Much as I Possible to Live in the Present
Living in the present is one sure way of letting go every fear that creeps up on you from failures of the past and anxieties of the future.
I live in the moments by taking a walk through nature and enjoy the cool breeze and the sound of moving wind. I also live at the moment by appreciating the things I have in life instead of worrying about what I do not have.
Sadly, a conversation with friends or a TV commercial could kill this disposition in you, such that you become empty and a low achiever when TV commercials project a life of class and wealth that yours does not compare to.
Adding on to your negative state is when you worry about your future and thinking of the things you do not have and what you are supposed to achieve.
Too many of us have stolen the joy out of our lives by worrying about our future.
For instance, you will come across a young person worrying about the man or woman they will get married to. Their health, their finances and many other things.
Well, not that we should not live in the present but it is healthier, positive and less of an effort to live at the moment than constantly think about your future.
Some successes in your life happened randomly, without even your planning.
- I Choose to be Open-Minded
By being open-minded means I will consider new ideas. Whether I embrace them depends on my core values as a person and more so as a child of God.
However, sometimes being narrowly minded can be a big cause of negativity in our lives.
We value more who we are and what we know to the point of refusing to acknowledge any new idea or information contrary to what we already know.
For instance, a Christian who firmly believes in the word of God and full of faith might get agitated when he or she meets an atheist who tells him or her there is no God.
However, they only needed to acknowledge that not everyone is saved and not everyone believes in God.
That makes a hell lot of a difference and make them feel more positive than negative about the experience.
To be positive in life, be open-minded and accept that in your journey through life you will meet so many people who will oppose your absolute truth about life and yourself. If you are open-minded you will approach such encounters with positivity rather than negativity.
What are you negative about?
- Is it your current job?
- COVID-19 pandemic?
- Your spouse?
- Your child?
- Your mother-in-law?
- The government?
- Your lack of employment?
The list is endless. Whatever situation that makes you feel negative train yourself to only see the positive in situations and other people.
Soon, you will be on your way to being a positive person in life.